Does your weight inhibit your desire to date or socialize?

I think personality matters more than looks or physique. Some guys prefer women with some cushion. I've never had a problem getting a guy and most of my skinny friends are single. It's just a matter of who you are. When I go to the club, I am out on the dance floor more than my skinny friends. I don't care what people think of me. I am losing weight for health reasons not vanity because I know I will look good no matter what size I am.
 
Hey TE,

I can speak from experience that if your weight issue has affected your self-esteem, which it has, then it is most definately affecting your desire to date. When you are not comfortable with yourself, whom you know the best, you are never going to be comfortable with anyone else. It is just pure human nature. I can tell you this that since I have gotten in better shape and actually attained the body that I have right now, I have more self confidence, my relationship with my wife has gotten better, I am not ashamed of my appearance (especially with a shirt off now) and it flow over into everything I do. Never in a million years would I have posted messages on a forum, let alone give advice.

Make sure you are ready on the inside before you begin your change on the outside. It sounds like you have the right motives and desire to get in better shape. Now just get moving. There are no magic pills or diets. Just hard work. There is hope and it really does not take that long once you put your mind to it. I am living proof and I know a lot of other people that have done the same thing. I can share what worked for me if you would like. Let me know.

Robert
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I can remember when I was thin and guys looked at me everywhere I went. They would come up to me and flirt and ask for my number. Then I gain about 70 pounds and the looks and the flirting stopped. Yes I was married but when I was married and thin the looks still came. Since I have started this journey of weight loss I have started to receive looks again but they are not that often. I am single again and my weight has made me very shy towards the whole approach to dating. I am always afraid that the guy takes one look at the size of me and is immediately turned off without ever finding out what type of person I am. I go out dancing with the girls once in awhile and I will admit that I am the heaviest one there and I am almost always the one left sitting at the table because no one asked me to dance. I have gone home from nights like these wondering why I even try but since my mother drilled the whole "try, try again" into my head growing up I guess I will just keep going out and hoping that some guy looks at me for who I am not how I look. And then I will reach my goal and I will look HOT and all those guys who wouldn't look before I can kick in the head when they look:D
 
Wow, I thought it was just me! Yeah, I won't even attempt to date. There are multiple reasons, but my weight and fitness levels are huge factors. I look at myself and think, "I wouldn't want to date me, why would anyone else". I have had body image issues since elementary school. If I snapped my fingers and suddenly weighed 125 pounds, I'd still be the same me inside and I probably still wouldn't attempt to date. My hope is that as I'm going along in this weight loss process that I also gain a lot of confidence and strength along the way and then eventually I will date.
 
somethingnew: kinda late (with the post), but i feel exactly how you do. 20 years old, and never been out on an *official* date

I also have noticed that i get the "you are cute card" many times. And no, not attractive cute, but like teddy bear cute. and lets face it, which gal wants to date a teddy bear.
 
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