Does this happen to you?

dreamtobethin

dreamtobethin

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Hi all; I have a confession to make. I am not sure if this happens to anyone of you; but I sometimes get jealous of gals with good figures around me. If I am in a crowd and there are girls around who look good and have a great body I appreciate them but at the same time get jealous that they are that way. I then kind of become very moody and get lost in my own trail of thoughts. I know I should not feel that way but sometimes I just think that they have what I have been longing forever and how nice I would feel if I had that figure....may be once I get to my goal wt I will not feel that way but this is how I feel right now and just wanted to see if anybody out there felt something similar..........:confused:
 
i'm not usually that way unless i'm in a certain situation... like i'm at the beach or swimming pool and i see lots of people in lil bikinis and i'm still wearing jeans and a cropped shirt.
 
I definately feel like that sometimes... but what's worse for me, is that I feel it around my best friend! She's a beautiful person, inside and out, and has the boys all over her, even though she doesn't want their attention (she truly loves her b/f) and I tend sit in the back ground, trying not to scowl...but eh, what can I say? I love her to death, and I'm only human, and jealousy sometimes makes his way into my head.
 
Yeah, I'm human, and I sometimes think ' Oh, I could look like that too, if I didn't eat ever'! I'm not proud of myself, and as I get older, I care less and less. And I don't want to be 'skinny', I love having cuves, I just have a few too many at the moment!!! Ha!
 
When I weighed 284lbs my best friend in weighed 92lbs... she was actually very healthy (she was only 4'11") and I am 5'11". Needless to say we were a fairly odd match. I used to get very self conscious when we were together and rarely went out anyplace with her because I didn't want to be stared at. Now I very much regret it because she's moved away and I never get to see her. :(

I know how you feel, but try hard to look past it because you could miss out on some great friends, and good times!
 
As you all said...we are but human. I find that I don't necessarily get jealous of skinny people as I kind of envy people with great bodies (which doesn't always equal skinny)..
Someone simply skinny doesnt make me jealous..because well..if I just stopped eating so much..I'd be too if you know what i mean..
but someone with a great body..like sometimes if I see someone extremely fit, it makes me wish I had the determination to get my butt to the gym 4 times a week.
 
I often see people and think, that could be me if I could get in control of my eating and work out more. I'm like Saram, because I don't want to be skinny necessarily, but i want to be toned and strong and fit! I see slim women's arms that are toned and think, they are not like that naturally, they have worked at that, why can't I be that motivated. I think it is human to be jealous. You don't necessarily wish them any ill will, but it can dent your self esteem.

My mood can change if my husband and I are watching a film and a sexy woman comes on. I was happy as anything before, possibly feeling positive about sticking to a regime, or having lost some weight, but then i start thinking 'Is he looking at her, does he fancy her, of course he does she's beautiful, and i'm ugly, why would he fancy me' - and there go my good vibes, and i feel depressed, and I might even start snapping at my husband, although he has done nothing wrong.

I think I would get on a lot better with dieting, if i didn't have to listen to myself all the time:rolleyes:
 
i cant say i get jealous of them over all but i do find myself wanting to look as good as they do then i ususally make myself accept i can never look that good (confidence issues) But i know its not their fault i look like i do so i dont hold it against them
 
It Gives Me Motivation

I tend to feel the same way around thinner girls or people in general cause I feel like they are looking down on me....But only in certain places and positions and one of them sadly happens to be the Gym I attend. I feel like all the thin, built people in the room are looking at me thinking "What the Heck????" but i have got to the point now that I really dont mind what they think because within the next few months I will be thinner and meet my goal and then feel better cause I proved them wrong. I do find myself jealous but then I remind myself that I am the one that put the weight on my body and its not their fault that I am not as tone as them and There is no excuse why I cant be.....Its gives me a little Motivation

Beth
 
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