Do you feel different?

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crazyangel

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Hi! I am new here. =) I was never skinny, but never fat either. In high school I was 140-145 pounds, and I am 5'6''. I actually was the only one of my friends that was completely happy with my weight. However, I am now 22, married, and somehow reached a staggering 170 pounds. The good news, 170 seems to be my plateau.

I guess my question is.. for those of you who once weighed less, did/do you feel different with the extra weight?

I feel UNsexy and GROSS. I hate the prospect of going out with my husband and my friends and family. Everyone used to be like ohhh you are so gorgeous. I don't hear that anymore, unless it's from the hubby. I just been feeling so down lately. I am currently working out 5 days a week at the gym for 1-2 hours, I starting eating more veggies and fruits.. I hope I can get back down to at least my wedding weight, which was 150. I want to feel sexy again! =(
 
YES! Yes yes yes yes! Ugh, I can't express how different I feel just through words. I feel so big and unattractive. I'm unsure of myself, I don't want noticed, I hide from everything and everyone. I'm ashamed of myself. When I was thinner, I was in a much better mood and felt that I could take hold of my life, that I was in control. Now I feel out of control and very inhibited. Some part of me thinks I may have even been able to do better in school if I was thinner again, like maybe it would have made me feel freer because my major is an artistic one and how can you create beautiful and interesting things when you feel so restricted? =/
 
crazyangel said:
Hi! I am new here. =) I was never skinny, but never fat either. In high school I was 140-145 pounds, and I am 5'6''. I actually was the only one of my friends that was completely happy with my weight. However, I am now 22, married, and somehow reached a staggering 170 pounds. The good news, 170 seems to be my plateau.
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God, if 170 lbs is STAGGERING, then my fat ass must be monumental.

crazyangel said:
Everyone used to be like ohhh you are so gorgeous. I don't hear that anymore, unless it's from the hubby. I just been feeling so down lately. I am currently working out 5 days a week at the gym for 1-2 hours, I starting eating more veggies and fruits.. I hope I can get back down to at least my wedding weight, which was 150. I want to feel sexy again! =(
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I know this sounds like an over-simplistic point of view, but...

Who cares what other people think? Especially people who aren't your husband?

Seriously, does it matter if Johnny Randompants or the waiter you get at Applebee's thinks you're sexy or not? Does it matter if everybody at the grocery store eye fucks you or if your mailman gets boners when he brings you packages? No, it doesn't. All that matters (or all that SHOULD matter to you) is that your husband thinks you're sexy and that your husband loves you.

At the end of the day, getting oogled by strangers isn't what makes you happy. Hearing comments about how sexy you are isn't what makes you happy either. I mean, you have a man in your life that is spending each and every day with you, loving you and dedicating his life to you, but you think that you're going to value shallow and meaningless canned compliments from people who don't even care about you over what your HUSBAND thinks about you? Come on. You know better than that.

I know that people take pride in the things that offer them a tiny ego boost, but, at the end of the day, we all know that those things don't matter. So, if you feel like you're not sexy, just take a look at your husband and remind yourself of how wrong you are.
 
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I definatly feel worse then i did months ago. when my weight was around 180 it didnt bother me much because i feel like i carried the weight well. i had no pot belly and the fat was pretty evenly dispersed if that makes any sense. but when i went from 180 to 230 i developed the whole potbelly thing and i dont like that. at all. pot bellys are not cute or sexy in any way. especially when they are large. Not only do i want to go back to where i was comfortable i want to go lower. to be truly thin.
 
crazyangel said:
I guess my question is.. for those of you who once weighed less, did/do you feel different with the extra weight? QUOTE]

H*ll yes! I hate all this extra weight!! I felt soo great in the 150s.. All my weight was in my bottom and thighs. And I didn't care cuz I didn't have to look at it lol. Plus my bf likes it so wtv. Once I hit the 160s all the chuck spread like an std. Even my toes r fat now. My bf said they look like Deanna's (Vienna) sausages... wtf lol
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Its horrible when you feel too ugly to even go out and meet new people. I have days when I'm going through my wardrobe to find a dress for an upcoming event and trying on my old clothes that now look disgusting on!! It definitely cuts you down.
 
if you really are depressed then start losing your weight,eat healthy do some exercise.
 
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