Do people change as you lose weight?
SIGH, this is such a complicated question that would require a 500 page thesis to answer correctly. Even then, the answer would be so complex and drawn out that nobody would be able to make any sense of it.
Why's that?
Because, it's all a matter of opinion. It all boils down to what we (as individuals) consider a 'change' in a person. And, because of that, there is literally no right answer nor a wrong one.
With that being said, this is how
I feel about it...
People don't change. People can make adjustments to accomodate others, people can arrange things to benefit the ones around them and people can even alter their behavior to make the world a better place. But, a person's personality (which, in my opinion, is the true defintion of the person themself) never changes...not for anything.
Whether it is the person who lost the weight or the people who surround them, any personality "changes" you may notice once a person loses weight are not really changes at all. Rather, they are simply the revealing of the truth - the
true character and
true personality of the person(s) in question.
You weigh 300 lbs. You know you're fat, so do your friends. While you are overweight, not once do your friends insult you. But, they also never compliment you either.
You decide enough is enough. And, over the course of a year, you drop 125 lbs and get your weight down to 175 lbs. You are now fit and trim. All of a sudden, your friends all say, "
Oh my God, you look great!" and "
Wow, you're sexy!" They have never said those things to you before. Those are the first compliments they have ever given you. Does that mean by saying those things, by complimenting you, that they have changed? No, it does not. It simply means that they have been hiding the truth from you the whole time.
What they are telling you now is the truth -
but you have to listen. Not to the words they are saying,
but the truth behind them.
What your friends are
really saying when they tell you "
Oh my God, you look great!" after you drop a ton of weight is, "
Dude, you looked like shit before. You were a fat, disgusting pig, but we didn't want to tell you. But, NOW...wow, just look at you! You're sexy...NOW."
Your friends didn't change. They were
always judging you for your appearance. It's just that,
now that you're skinnier and 'sexier', their judgments are ones that they are proud to display in front of you, which is why they now shower you with compliments. Before,
when you were heavier, their judgments were ones that they were ashamed to display in front of you, which is why they never said anything to you.
Your friends didn't change because you lost weight -
they were always judgmental of your appearance.
The same can be said for the person who lost the weight as well. They don't change. Any 'changes' that you see in them once they have lost weight are not changes - they are just figments of their true personality that have finally gotten their chance to shine through.
