discouraged!

[SaraNoH]

I guess maybe Im having a bad day. Well maybe just a bad week actually. I am working out two-three times a week...its about all the time I have with my schedule with school and work. But not only that...I am doing so good on my diet..best I have ever done. I cannot seem to get past that 240 mark...grr...and I come here for motivation and it seems like all I can get is reading other people's diaries for support. I post there at their diaries but somehow Im not getting much feedback. I have been coming here and it has been helping so much but lately I feel like its not doing much good anymore. I need all the support I can get because my husband isnt being the greatest about it. I mean we go out to eat and he orders cheesestix for an appetizer and is like u can eat one..come on eat one...but i dont...or if I do order a salad he makes it known that I ordered ranch dressing. (it was the only dressing they had that i liked...no fat free or lights at this place) Its just starting to irritate me. I have done so good...but Im getting no support and Im afraid Im going to go back down hill..the last thing I want to do. I have started drinking diet coke again...I havent had one in a month and in three days I have had two! and i ate really late last night and what I ate was bad and then I came home and went to bed....I dont want to go down that road again! Please someone work my confidence back up so I dont get discouraged!

 

[ImaFatass]

Accept Failure

I think accepting failure is most important. After all, chances of success across the scope of life, tend to be slim. Its repeated efforts that increase chances of success. My own problem, when gaining my weight, was not accepting failure when I tried to diet. Then I would gain more weight. New diet doesn't work? Gain more weight. 3 failed diets later, and I'm up 100 lbs. Now I'm at the point where I understand most diets will fail. If one doesn't work, I try another. I substitute this for that. I alter my diet on an ever changing basis. When you do find success, stick with it for as long as it works. It stops working, you don't stop working. You change your approach. Hit a new angle. Try something new. If someone brings a pizza home, I eat off a few pepperonis and walk away. If your husband orders fried foods at a restaurant and taunts you with them, say you'll eat the 'last one'. The last fried mushroom? You eat it, then theres none left for you to look at and be tempted by. Ranch dressing? Just use less. Drizzle instead of pour, and discard the rest. You really have to change your way of thinking and get creative.

 

[redneckwoman66]

Hey Girl I Have A Support Thread Under Clubs Heading 4 And Reaching The 100's I Promise You Will Get Feedback There! I Am Sorry You Dont Feel Supported And I Will Do My Best To From Now On Cause You Are Doing Great And I Know You Can Do This! I Think I Been So Busy Visiting Diaries I Am Not Paying Attention Like I Should And I Am So Sorry! I Know How Ya Feel Though I Posted I Wasnt Going To Go And Support Others In Their Diary If They Didnt Come To Mine Once A Week But I Promise You I Will Be Here For You And Others Will Jump In And Support Me In Helping You!

 

[SaraNoH]

Thanks RN...I just had a bad day yesterday I think. I mean it was just one of those "I feel fat days" and it was like I couldnt get support from anyone! You know what I mean...its not that IM not going to post and support others I just felt yesterday I needed help with my stuff...iono...but thanks for your support you ahve always been a good supporter for me.

 

[redneckwoman66]

And I Will Always Be!

 

[Fluff]

Hey Sara! I completely understand what you mean about not having that support system at home. I am in a similiar position, although I think its getting better. When I first decided to try and lose weight around New Year's I dont think my husband really thought I was serious about it. He was like "Yeah yeah...another resolution you wont keep" He wasnt very supportive. He certainly didnt want to talk about my weight loss efforts.

Now though, after losing some weight, and sticking it out a few months, he does seem to be becoming more supportive. He doesnt try to talk me into eating things anymore, and has even complimented me on my weight loss. It does make things easier at home. The whole reason I started posting on here was because I absolutely needed some support, or I knew I could never do this. This place has been great!! But I know its not the same as having that support at home. Hang in there, and hopefully your husband will see your determination over time, and rally to your side!

I also can relate to the frustration of feeling stuck at a certain weight despite doing everything right. I hit a plateau a while back that lasted almost three weeks. It was sooooo discouraging. I was doubting why I was even bothering to eat right and exercise if it wasnt going to make a difference on the scale. But I stuck with it, and I am glad I did. The scale did start moving again. But it was a very difficult time in my diet. Stick with it....you will break this plateau as well !

 

[dream1]

Support is a hard thing. When I plan to eat well and the family decides to go and have chinese, I get frustrated. Here's some things to look at! How do you feel when you stay on your diet? For me, my confidence goes through the roof when I can go to dinner with family and each my sensible meal while everyone else stuffs theirselves. I feel better when I eat well, so much better. Look at all the benefits of eating well and exercising. What happens to youe energy level and your attitude when your taking care of these issues?
There is no failure, only feedback! If something doesn't seem to work, create a new way. We tend to beat ourselves up about not doing exactly what we should do. For me, the only way I could lose any weight was to chunk it down into day to day steps, moment to moment. After a month, I saw progress, and felt good each day for eating healthy, have smaller portions and exercising. Scott If you can dream it, it can be so!

 

[B A Rabbit]

I need all the support I can get because my husband isnt being the greatest about it. I mean we go out to eat and he orders cheesestix for an appetizer and is like u can eat one..come on eat one...but i dont...or if I do order a salad he makes it known that I ordered ranch dressing. (it was the only dressing they had that i liked...no fat free or lights at this place) Its just starting to irritate me.(

You a Pisces by chance? Its not been a good week for me eithir exercisewize. And the diet is not doing the greatest, Its just sheer luck I'm not gaining any.

Anyway, heres an idea, When you go out to eat, Bring your own salad dressing "just in case" I mean You girls carry everything in your purse don't you?

How about ordering your salad dressing on the side, then watering it down a little?

And as for that Bullish misanthrope you call a husband, Go ahead and take that Cheeze stick, And say thank you, Then accidentily on purpose, drop it in his drink. Sure he'll start a fight about it, then he'll order another drink, But I bet he dosen't offer you another cheesestick. AND if he does, do it again. Eventually he'll get the message not to tempt you.