Diary of a Bluebottle

bluebottle

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My back story:
I've always been fat. Period. My parents weren't fat persay but they did 'eat well'. My problem was that I always ate the same size portions as them. Not good. So I was always the fat kid at school but I was also big framed - short & stocky - so I suppose that actually helped disguise the fat. That, and I was quite active; did martial arts, horse riding, rugby and lots of other stuff. As a result I suppose I was lucky in the way that I wasn't bullied much because people probably thought i'd kick their head in:)

Aged about 15/16/17 some serious bouts of depression set in. All the activity ceased but the eating didn't change. Smoking had started as did quite heavy drinking. Between that time and the end of last year, I went from a UK size 18 to a near 26.

Now i'll be the first to admit i'm bone idle. I'm one of the laziest buggers you could meet. But I've had enough of that. Time for action people.
When I was younger I would get into something and put all my energy and enthusiasm into that one thing & I though that passion for doing something had gone but now I realise it hasn't.
Music is my big love and that I do everyday. Also I have a new love and enthusiasm for bettering myself. Losing weight, being fitter, healthier and as shallow as it sounds, looking better.
If i'm honest, there's never been anytime in my near 23 years where i've actually thought I looked good.

So as things stand, I started this weight loss jobbie in February. No plans, no fads, just exersize & diet change. And chaning the way I view food. It's amazing now that when you look on food labels exactly just what is in the food you buy. And portion sizes and just general attitudes about food.
Now I haven't exactly lost a lot of weight, maybe about 20lbs. This is probably due to serious undereating in the first few months and splurging out on weekends. At the same time, through excersize i've now got a hell of a lot of muscle - more than when I was active - and we all know muscle weighs more than fat so that's one factor.

The other factor being - and this is going out to everyone who thinks they haven't lost anything and are getting disheartened - you live with your own body, you don't/won't really see any change but it is happening. Other people do see it. I can't see any change in my body but i've lost about 2 clothes sizes without really noticing.

Anyway, that's enough for now. I'll keep this going on a more-or-less weekly basis. If it matters i'm 22 years old, 5'4" short. And fed up. But determined.

See ya.
 
Welcome to the forum, looks like you are off to a great start, I know what it is like to be naturally stocky (OK, built like the proverbial brick shithouse). For those with a muscular, stocky, short build you might be better of tracking bodyfat % rather than BMI.

What position did you play in rugby ? (I play Hooker but swap to Prop in the lineout in the local ladies team). Have you considered getting back into any sports ? you may rediscover that you enjoy it ?
 
Changing your diet and starting to exercise was a great start. I was also undereating in the beginning... I somehow had it stuck in my head very few calories mean a lot of weight loss... however, I learned quite the opposite so I'm working on it.

Its great advice about feeling like your not losing anything... I was convinced my body wasn't changing and I was putting all this effort in for nothing until my pants started getting baggy .

Keep up the great work and have a great day
~Jenna

P.S... What instruments do you play?
 
Argh

For the last few weeks i've been way too lazy; kept up with the food fine, just haven't done any/much exersize. Also, I have been having a habit of getting a take-away once a week (but nowhere near the size/quantity of what I used to get) and the ol' red wine was getting a bit on the exessive side so as of last week that's all stopping.
I really am pee'd off right now; my scales that don't work properly don't help either.

This week though i'm back on the exersize and doing more than before. I'm in pain. This is what happens when you take three weeks off:rolleyes:
Still annoyed that I haven't really lost any 'fat'. I've actually put weight back on but it just seems whatever the hell I do the fat just isn't going anywhere. It just seems like i'm a fitter more toned person, just covered in the same amouth of fat and flab as before.

I keep hearing peoples' stories how they've lost X amount in such and such amount of time and I just don't get anything. Just seems like no matter what I do it just ain't good enough. I'm not planning on quitting, but some cheering up wouldn't go amiss.
 
Hi there BB,

just dropping into your diary. :) Don't beat yourself up. It's not worth it really. All you can do is get out there and do it. Your first post seemed so determined and positive... don't lose that. You will begin to lose as long as you keep telling yourself you can and you will. It all starts with your mind.... wishing you the best...

-Sheryl
 
The best think you can do for yourself is not give up. Which you have already decided to do:)

Keep working at it and results will come... maybe some tweaking to your diet and exercise will help... this whole weight loss thing is a balancing act.
 
I'm down to about 208lbs and have hit ye goode olde plateau. Been glued to the same spot on the scales for over a month. I've stopped drinking and have now gone semi-vegetarian. Not through the moral issues, i've just gone off meat. I had a one-off takeaway the other week and ended up throwing up profusely which was curiously a good sign. It means I just can't eat stuff like that anymore hence I won't bother trying in future :)

All in all, things are going well. Just desparate to get of this damn plateau.

I'm still not entirely sure that i'm getting enough calories (and fat for that matter) but i'm having a hard time actually trying to eat more. Whoever said diets were about starving yourself was talking out of their arse. I'm sick of eating, it's all I seem to be doing.
I have never been what you would call a 'fussy eater' but i'm finding that i'm just going right off the sort of things I used to munch on. I fear I may be becoming a..... health freak ;)
 
RIGHT.
Update.

Now down to 178lbs (was 176 but explaination coming*).
To all of those thinking of giving up, feeling disheartened - DON'T GIVE UP.

Look, I know in previous posts, few though they have been, I feel F**king fantastic these days. I'm still fat yes, i've still got work to do but it's what I want to "achieve" and that's something to still work on and something I now enjoy doing.

*I like a drink. I do like eating crap from time to time but now I've learned to do it IN MODERATION.

These days, I can't eat that much (portion wise), nor do I enjoy the taste of so-called junk food or much in the way of processed ready meals. I suppose i'm lucky in the way that I can knock up a meal from next to nothing but that doesn't take a lot of work. If you haven't got one already, buy a vegetable steamer - they're a godsend!

IT TAKES TIME.
In retrospect, I started off trying to lose weight, but it's become so much more than that. As I mentioned in my first post, I've always been fat - I've always liked my food. I still do, no doubt about it but I also now like my excersize and my 'good' eating. I do feel infinetley better than I did; I feel fitter, have more energy, moods are better - I had (serious) depression for quite a while and just excersising and eating right makes just so much difference but, you have to give it time.

Just the other day I ran about 1 mile (I hate running to begin with) - last year I couldn't walk about 500 yards without getting knackered. Every achievement you make, makes all the difference. You do start noticing them, no matter how small you think they seem, those achievements are probably bigger than they really are :)

It's kinda annoying at the moment, the news (in the UK) has been saying that if you're fat, it's you're genes. That just gives people an excuse. Yeah, some people will be 'bigger' than others because people do come in all shapes and sizes but your genes don't give you an excuse to be a lump of unhealthy fat & crap. I'm never going to be Kate Moss, nor do I want to be, but i'm healthier and thinner than i've ever been and that's enough for me for now, and I ain't gonna stop now either.

Long and short of it;
Don't give up!
 
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