Hi all, Im 19, new to the site. Um, I was wondering, can guys have body dysmorphia? I think I might have it...I find myself wretched to look at and as a consequence I have very low self esteem and am kinda afraid to date due to possible exposure and ridicule. I hate myself physically aside from my face and wish my physical self matched my strengths in emotional capacity and talents, which in my opinion are rather awesome. I just cant get a concrete positive opinion about my appearence.
I've been trying to get in shape to try and fix that. I hate looking at everyone and thinking they look better. I don't want to be terribly ripped but, maybe a four pack? Just thin? I don't know anymore. I've just had weight issues since I was 8 and have at one point I think weighed over 210 lbs. I am not athletic, I am artistic and kinda scholarly so it's hard for me to get into sports games and the like. If I knew I would have fun playing a sport, I would enjoy it.
However, I have mannaged to get down to 186 lba last I checked, ten of those pounds lost were lost this past autumn/winter. I am about 6'2 btw.
I have been trying all sorts of programs in the past, only cardio, or only weight training, or neither and only floor exercises and light weights, all sorts of methods.... and currently I have been going to the gym three times a week, utilizing the machines and weights for 30 minutes, alternating areas each time I go (upper body = arms, neck, back, chest) and lower body (parts of thigh, legs and rear) and then going swimming for 30 minutes after each workout. I thought so far this year I was doing great, doing a right thing. Taking protein shakes and lean protein, also upping fiber intake.
For the first time in years I could fit into some cuts of 34 shorts or pants (when I used to wear a 38 exclusively in late middleschool) But lately I asked my friends who are fitness buffs to critique my progress, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being like, fit enough to have a 6 pack.
They both, separately scored me rather low....a 6, and that really got me down. They said I had little definition anywhere and in all just sucked....I know I shouldn't take it to heart but it really hurt. Now I feel like I'm just not doing the right thing, and quite frankly I just find myself hating myself even more than I should.
Do you think I have body dysmorphia? I think im just hideous...and feel it's going to take forever to get where I'd like to be since I'm currently just not good enough. Im not sure how much longer my self esteem can take me beating myself up over not being attractive. I've suggested to my parents that I might have this problem before and if they're anybody we could go to, but they are conistant in telling me I look ok and dont need such severe action.
Please tell me what to do! Do you think I might have body dysmoprhic disorder? Should I take up a new routine? What would be good and simple to follow in order to get some concrete results. My school will have an excellent gym, I'll be able to do a lot there.
Me, as much as Id like to not admit it.
I've been trying to get in shape to try and fix that. I hate looking at everyone and thinking they look better. I don't want to be terribly ripped but, maybe a four pack? Just thin? I don't know anymore. I've just had weight issues since I was 8 and have at one point I think weighed over 210 lbs. I am not athletic, I am artistic and kinda scholarly so it's hard for me to get into sports games and the like. If I knew I would have fun playing a sport, I would enjoy it.
However, I have mannaged to get down to 186 lba last I checked, ten of those pounds lost were lost this past autumn/winter. I am about 6'2 btw.
I have been trying all sorts of programs in the past, only cardio, or only weight training, or neither and only floor exercises and light weights, all sorts of methods.... and currently I have been going to the gym three times a week, utilizing the machines and weights for 30 minutes, alternating areas each time I go (upper body = arms, neck, back, chest) and lower body (parts of thigh, legs and rear) and then going swimming for 30 minutes after each workout. I thought so far this year I was doing great, doing a right thing. Taking protein shakes and lean protein, also upping fiber intake.
For the first time in years I could fit into some cuts of 34 shorts or pants (when I used to wear a 38 exclusively in late middleschool) But lately I asked my friends who are fitness buffs to critique my progress, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being like, fit enough to have a 6 pack.
They both, separately scored me rather low....a 6, and that really got me down. They said I had little definition anywhere and in all just sucked....I know I shouldn't take it to heart but it really hurt. Now I feel like I'm just not doing the right thing, and quite frankly I just find myself hating myself even more than I should.
Do you think I have body dysmorphia? I think im just hideous...and feel it's going to take forever to get where I'd like to be since I'm currently just not good enough. Im not sure how much longer my self esteem can take me beating myself up over not being attractive. I've suggested to my parents that I might have this problem before and if they're anybody we could go to, but they are conistant in telling me I look ok and dont need such severe action.
Please tell me what to do! Do you think I might have body dysmoprhic disorder? Should I take up a new routine? What would be good and simple to follow in order to get some concrete results. My school will have an excellent gym, I'll be able to do a lot there.
Me, as much as Id like to not admit it.