Boyfriend and Food!

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TheyCallMeRed

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So... I'm really into eating healthy food and keeping my body lean. My boyfriend on the other hand is not. He thinks I'm naturally this way even though I tell him all the time that I'm not. (It doesn't help that he's super small either).

Do any of you deal with people your close with and this issue? How do you not get sucked in to eating the crap they do?

Red
 
ah yes.... it's actually very common, so don't think you are alone!

My wife is very supportive. She knows I am not too good with self control, and that if she buys candy and chocolate, etc. that I would eat it. The truth is, that it's up to us (the people eating healthy) to find a way to be around food like that, without feeling like one has to binge or eat all of it. It's definitley easier said than done, but it's possible. For the rest of our life, there will always be people bringing cakes, sweets, treats etc. For someone close, they should be more understanding since they know what were up against, and maybe just explaining that sincerely may work... maybe :p
 
I think my issue isn't so much that I'm tempted, but more like I wish he was on the same page as I am. I'm just so passionate about eating well, not as a weight maintenance plan more as a way of life. I feel better, am rarely sick, and even sleep better.

O well, maybe someday.

Red
 
I have a very supportive boyfriend, but one who likes to eat bad food, has friends who encourage his bad eating habits, and who loves to take me out to restaurants (and is really very miffed that I haven't let him since I started calorie counting). I agree with you- I'd like him to be on the same page as me. Not just because he needs to lose weight much, much more than I do (or ever did), but I'd like him to stop treating what I'm doing as a novelty or something I need to get over. That being said, when he comes over here he eats almost exactly what I do and has always said how good the food is and how he's not going hungry. I think, maybe, I'm winning him over on this one, at least in some of his everyday habits. (Although finding out what he eats when he goes out with his friends, or that he always partakes in the cake/ biscuits that is regularly brought into his work... somewhat discouraging. Both because I like these things and because I've worked so hard to get him to improve his diet. He's obese class 2, and I think that scares me much more than it scares him)
 
TheyCallMeRed said:
So... I'm really into eating healthy food and keeping my body lean. My boyfriend on the other hand is not. He thinks I'm naturally this way even though I tell him all the time that I'm not. (It doesn't help that he's super small either).

Do any of you deal with people your close with and this issue? How do you not get sucked in to eating the crap they do?

Red
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Just don't eat it. Who cares what anybody else eats? It doesn't mean you have to eat the same thing. So, if you're "really into eating healthy food" like you say you are, then it shouldn't be that hard for you to not eat like crap. You like eating healthy, so do what you like.
 
Amy- Yeah, that's exactly how it is. He definitely thinks it's a novelty. I actually want to become a nutritionist!

ChefChiTown- I totally agree with you! I guess a better question would be how can I show him that eating healthy really is so important. Most people don't take it seriously if they aren't overweight, but that doesn't mean they are healthy either.
 
One of the things I'm doing (I know, delayed afterthought) is making him low calorie versions of things he loves sometimes. OK, they're not strictly on my diet (but I don't eat them, I give them to him), and may not even be on his if he had one, but a 500 calorie home made kebab (cutting down the meat, packing it with vegetables, and using low fat sauce) has got to be way better than what he's buying from the curry house. (He says it's comparable :D )
 
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