how do you get rid of the uglies?? that is embrace the things you cannot change or atleast without plastic surgery anyway! I thought i was okay but relized i am comparing myselfto other people - not good. so i'm trying not to fall into the old trap again.. how'd that ugly duckling turn into a swan again?
best way to ^self esteem??
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You're fine, I'm fine, we're all fine. What makes us not fine? The perception of other people? Who cares! I don't. I don't care what other people think.
I took that attitude and stopped worrying about what other people thought of me. The only one you have to make happy or be happy with is yourself. You're probably being too hard on yourself. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself, are you more concerned with what YOU think or what others think. Try not to get down on yourself.
Just be yourself, keep your head up. Im sure what other people see when they look at you is quite different than what you see in yourself
I took that attitude and stopped worrying about what other people thought of me. The only one you have to make happy or be happy with is yourself. You're probably being too hard on yourself. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself, are you more concerned with what YOU think or what others think. Try not to get down on yourself.
Just be yourself, keep your head up. Im sure what other people see when they look at you is quite different than what you see in yourself
i guess you are your own worst critic. i get a lot of people(women) coming up to me saying stuff like - your so thin you make me sick. they think its a compliment but it sounds soo bad. i'm not under weight. just very toned and god bless genetics and lots of hard work i am 5'5" and very petite. the prob is men. haha. do they find me intimating or what i don't get it? i've had 3 guys approach me in 2 1/2 years. i am seeing one fellow but once or twice a month only- used to be more but... so i start to get hypercritical. i'm not ugly atleast i don't think so and i don't think being a single parent makes me that scary so.. maybe i'm not as great as i thought i was! who knew? but i'm probably just being stupid right? i guess i've more work to do on booasting the self esteem after crawling out the hell relationship i was in for 12 years. i am everything to my kids, i am wonder woman!
If there's one thing a guy doesn't like, it's a girl who's uncomfortable with herself (secondly) and criticises everything (primarilly).
Plus, if you're too busy beating yourself up, you set yourself up for failure of meeting ****ty people. Just believe in yourself and get comfortable, so you may one day meet a man like me. *wink and smile*
Plus, if you're too busy beating yourself up, you set yourself up for failure of meeting ****ty people. Just believe in yourself and get comfortable, so you may one day meet a man like me. *wink and smile*
As Arnold would say, "excellent work"
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oh **** dont say that..didnt some chick called Susan something drown both her kids after her lover wouldnt commit because she had kids...
jenn said:well i love my kids very much so there is no chance of that happening.. besides a grown man afraid of a couple of kids is definately not the right guy for me.. i'd terrify him..lol
i dont think the guy was scared of the kids...just scared of commitment and becoming an instant father...thats what most guys problems are.
Your problem is clearly living in Ontario, among challenged people. For god's sake, they all vote Liberal every election. Come on down to Alberta for an ego boost.
I have no idea how you up your self esteem. Ive been working on it for years with no success.
As for you, I suppose the children could be a turnoff for some guys. It could also be intimidation. I know I never go introduce myself to women unless I am introduced through some already mutual friend. Thats just the way I am, and Im sure there are others out there like myself.
As for you, I suppose the children could be a turnoff for some guys. It could also be intimidation. I know I never go introduce myself to women unless I am introduced through some already mutual friend. Thats just the way I am, and Im sure there are others out there like myself.
Yeah, sure. You can live under my desk. I can't promise it'll be very exciting but maybe you'll think of something to amuse yourself with down there.
Seriously, though, self-esteem is a lifelong struggle for everyone. All you can really do is stick to the fundamentals. Good support (family and friends..maybe random internet people too), having a purpose, and most importantly positive self talk. It's all about what you say to yourself..both subconsciously and otherwise. I can recommend a lot of great self-help books that have done a lot for me personally, but other than that the best we can do as forum members is say we think you're a great lady and very attractive besides. That can only be a temporary boost at best, the rest is up to you. Given your dedication to your physical body, why not consider spending an hour a day working on your mind and your mental health?
Seriously, though, self-esteem is a lifelong struggle for everyone. All you can really do is stick to the fundamentals. Good support (family and friends..maybe random internet people too), having a purpose, and most importantly positive self talk. It's all about what you say to yourself..both subconsciously and otherwise. I can recommend a lot of great self-help books that have done a lot for me personally, but other than that the best we can do as forum members is say we think you're a great lady and very attractive besides. That can only be a temporary boost at best, the rest is up to you. Given your dedication to your physical body, why not consider spending an hour a day working on your mind and your mental health?
best way to up self esteem? chocolate! yum yum...