Beach Dudes Diary of a fat man.

Beachdude

Beachdude

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Good Morning everyone ,I originally posted this in someone elses thread not realizing that I was Hijacking there thread. I figure this is a great place for my Rant!! I started out last weekend weighing in at 321. I never dreamed I would ever weigh over 300 pounds.
I think it started when the Burger King started there dollar double cheese burgers, I would eat 4 at lunch almost every day.
It is history now. Eating food especially food I Love I would over eat all the time. My portions usually could feed 4. It is no mystery looking back why I am this BIG!! My Sister passed away this past winter and I had to take a flight out to Boston. I sat in my seat by the window. A man came up and sat down next to me and slammed me as he was getting in. He said sorry and I replied that they do not make these seats for big guys like me. He looked at me with with total DISDAIN and got up and went to the front of the plane. I saw him talking to the stewardesses and he was pointing at me and raising his voice and then one of the pilots came out and they all marched right up to my seat. Now I will admit that there was not a lot of elbow room but I had made dam sure that I was not invading his space. They looked at me and told him they would not upgrade his seat and he sat sideways with his feet in the aisle. I was so embarrassed and outraged. He made a spectacle of me and asked if there was some one smaller who would trade seats with him . When people speak of motivating factors this is mine. I would never do what he did to anyone. Ok sorry if this has turned into a rant but truly I am more motivated than ever to lose weight.



I am what they call Morbidly Obese category which offends me !
My first goal is 50 pounds. Currently 315 lbs. down from 321 lbs.
 
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Wow, Beachdude. I'm extremely sorry for the loss of your sister, and I'm very sorry that happened to you on the plane. What a total jerk. People don't have any consideration for other people's feelings these days. I'm happy you found your motivator, though! We all need that extra little push. You're already down 6 lbs?! Very nicely done!

Morbidly obese is a very jarring thing to hear, I agree. I feel like they call it like it is, though. Losing weight will add years back onto our lives.
 
Miss Fit said:
Wow, Beachdude. I'm extremely sorry for the loss of your sister, and I'm very sorry that happened to you on the plane. What a total jerk. People don't have any consideration for other people's feelings these days. I'm happy you found your motivator, though! We all need that extra little push. You're already down 6 lbs?! Very nicely done!

Morbidly obese is a very jarring thing to hear, I agree. I feel like they call it like it is, though. Losing weight will add years back onto our lives.
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Thank you for your support. I am counting Points per weight watchers. My portions are much smaller than before. Sounds like you are doing well with your journey as well, I wish you well On your journey too!!
 
First of all I'm very sorry about your sister! Second of all.... what an a**hole that guy was! Very sorry that happened to you. I am happy though that that horrible experience gave you some motivation, which led you here! Welcome to the forum, Beachdude!

P.S. I wish I was on a beach instead of working..lol. :)
 
Hi Beachdude, good to see you started a diary. How do you feel about the points system? Someone told me not to say "smaller portions" but rather "normal portions" to help my brain recognize I wasn't being deprived of something I ought to have but instead was getting used to what I should have been doing all along, so: Are you starting to get used to the normal portions yet?
Best of luck, buddy!
 
LaMaria said:
Someone told me not to say "smaller portions" but rather "normal portions" to help my brain recognize I wasn't being deprived of something I ought to have but instead was getting used to what I should have been doing all along
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Ooooo.. I like that! :)
 
LaMaria said:
Hi Beachdude, good to see you started a diary. How do you feel about the points system? Someone told me not to say "smaller portions" but rather "normal portions" to help my brain recognize I wasn't being deprived of something I ought to have but instead was getting used to what I should have been doing all along, so: Are you starting to get used to the normal portions yet?
Best of luck, buddy!
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Hi LaMaria,
You have made a very good point! I was eating enough to feed 4 people. I am feeling a little hungry at times. I am allowed 44 points a day and have not gone over that ! My average points intake a day is about 34 and have not used the bonus 35 points given yet, lol yet. Thank you for the advice I need to change my mindset.
 
Hi Beachdude,

Welcome to the forum!! Yup there are jerks out there wherever we go. I also went through the same kind of thing where someone hurled abuse at me for being big. And I say abuse because it is!! I also used it for a motivating factor to get where I am today. Funny thing is I started at 320 pounds. I also started my journey using the Weight Watcher's system. It works so stay with it. I found it way easier counting points than counting calories. When I had lost some weight I started running. I had never been an athlete and never pictured myself ever running but I started slow and worked my distance up.

You can do this!! This is a great forum for support and the people here got me through my journey. Oh, I am now 185 pounds - I went down to 175 then back up to 225( over the past couple of years) but am now back down now. It is a never ending struggle but so worth it.
 
It's normal to feel hungry. I am slightly hungry every evening before bed but I realised that it have to be like that. But I have 5 meals every day and I'm calm when I remember that I'm going to eat in the morning.
If you eat less calories than you burn.. your body is angry and demanding. This is why you're hungry and that's fine.

It's better to train yourself to satisfy on some healthy snack like carrots, celery or apples.
And I agree with someone who said that we actually eat normal portions now. That's the fact. Our old portions were too big and unhealthy. The sooner we accept that - the better.

One more important thing is that you should try to eat all your points. Believe me.. it's going to be crucial on the long run.
My trainer was mad at me when I have skipped some meals.. I had vertigos and dizzines during the training and she noticed that. Also.. one day I went to the demanding hiking trail and I almost fainted because I haven't eat enough. Those things forced me to eat all my food and even add the extra meal if the trainig is hard .

I was eating cca 3000cal before. So I should not try to live on onlY 1200 .. especially if I'm active. And I really am.
Also I don't want to starve myself and slip to my old habits again.
So please once more - eat all your food. But not more than that. :)
 
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cowboy48 said:
Hi Beachdude,

Welcome to the forum!! Yup there are jerks out there wherever we go. I also went through the same kind of thing where someone hurled abuse at me for being big. And I say abuse because it is!! I also used it for a motivating factor to get where I am today. Funny thing is I started at 320 pounds. I also started my journey using the Weight Watcher's system. It works so stay with it. I found it way easier counting points than counting calories. When I had lost some weight I started running. I had never been an athlete and never pictured myself ever running but I started slow and worked my distance up.

You can do this!! This is a great forum for support and the people here got me through my journey. Oh, I am now 185 pounds - I went down to 175 then back up to 225( over the past couple of years) but am now back down now. It is a never ending struggle but so worth it.
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Hey Cowboy thank you so much you have inspired me even more!!
 
PussyCat said:
It's normal to feel hungry. I am slightly hungry every evening before bed but I realised that it have to be like that. But I have 5 meals every day and I'm calm when I remember that I'm going to eat in the morning.
If you eat less calories than you burn.. your body is angry and demanding. This is why you're hungry and that's fine.

It's better to train yourself to satisfy on some healthy snack like carrots, celery or apples.
And I agree with someone who said that we actually eat normal portions now. That's the fact. Our old portions were too big and unhealthy. The sooner we accept that - the better.

One more important thing is that you should try to eat all your points. Believe me.. it's going to be crucial on the long run.
My trainer was mad at me when I have skipped some meals.. I had vertigos and dizzines during the training and she noticed that. Also.. one day I went to the demanding hiking trail and I almost fainted because I haven't eat enough. Those things forced me to eat all my food and even add the extra meal if the trainig is hard .

I was eating cca 3000cal before. So I should not try to live on onlY 1200 .. especially if I'm active. And I really am.
Also I don't want to starve myself and slip to my old habits again.
So please once more - eat all your food. But not more than that. :)
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Thank you for the awesome advice!!
 
Hi Beachdude! Welcome!!

First off I am truly sorry for your loss, I couldn't even imagine losing a sibling. So sad.

Secondly, screw that asshat! No matter our sizes we are all humans and deserve respect and to be treated decent. He is lucky I wasn't on that plane, this little 5ft nothing redhead irish italilan temper would have been in its full glory for ya!

I think WW is a great starting point for you!! Good luck and keep posting anything and everything! This place helps! Its like free anonymous therapy and we dont judge! lol
 
tetemcg said:
Hi Beachdude! Welcome!!

First off I am truly sorry for your loss, I couldn't even imagine losing a sibling. So sad.

Secondly, screw that asshat! No matter our sizes we are all humans and deserve respect and to be treated decent. He is lucky I wasn't on that plane, this little 5ft nothing redhead irish italilan temper would have been in its full glory for ya!

I think WW is a great starting point for you!! Good luck and keep posting anything and everything! This place helps! Its like free anonymous therapy and we dont judge! lol
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Thank you TeteMCG
I am grateful there are some people who are willing to support me in this so-called makeover.
 
Hi beachdude. It's good to see you have started your own diary. I'm sorry about the loss of your sister. I know how that feels, having lost a brother & a sister. I think I am coping well, but every now & then I still get teary. I will always miss them. My sister & I were very close.
That a-hole on the plane deserves a bloody big talking to. Between tete & the rest of this support team we would give him a right bollicking!
No-one in here judges anyone. You have come to a safe & supportive place & you are very welcome. It is much busier than usual & we are in different time zones. If you don't get instant responses don't take it personally. I know I'm having trouble keeping up at the moment.
All the best beachdude & welcome to our community. Cheers, Cate.
 
Hiya and welcome!!! :)

I have a soft spot for WW as I lost 3 stone with them and more importantly learnt about normal portions (good one LaMa :D ), having veg with pasta/rice rather than pasta/rice with veg (coz veg are FREEEE hhehe ) and having treats but wisely (the last point I still struggle with at times but I'm SOOO much better) and I started exercising to earn more points. The points system REALLY worked for me. Sounds like it's working out for you too :)

All the best of luck!!
 
cate said:
Hi beachdude. It's good to see you have started your own diary. I'm sorry about the loss of your sister. I know how that feels, having lost a brother & a sister. I think I am coping well, but every now & then I still get teary. I will always miss them. My sister & I were very close.
That a-hole on the plane deserves a bloody big talking to. Between tete & the rest of this support team we would give him a right bollicking!
No-one in here judges anyone. You have come to a safe & supportive place & you are very welcome. It is much busier than usual & we are in different time zones. If you don't get instant responses don't take it personally. I know I'm having trouble keeping up at the moment.
All the best beachdude & welcome to our community. Cheers, Cate.
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Thank you Cate! I am on sensory overload. LOL there is so much to read!!
 
Delsid said:
Hiya and welcome!!! :)

I have a soft spot for WW as I lost 3 stone with them and more importantly learnt about normal portions (good one LaMa :D ), having veg with pasta/rice rather than pasta/rice with veg (coz veg are FREEEE hhehe ) and having treats but wisely (the last point I still struggle with at times but I'm SOOO much better) and I started exercising to earn more points. The points system REALLY worked for me. Sounds like it's working out for you too :)

All the best of luck!!
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TY Delsid I am impressed with WW the way they let you eat what you want just fall into the points for the day and Bam!! it works!! Portions OMG that is the kicker! Well I knew all along I was overeating . I had hope that I could be like some people who can eat anything and never gain weight!! The most important thing for me is that I stick to it. Not giving up !
 
7 lbs down? Well done Beachdude! What I liked about WW is that, yes, they let you eat all you like but looking at the points almost everyone ends up deciding that "real", healthy food is more worth it. So it feels like a conscious choice instead of something you´re being made to do.
 
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