One of the best things I heard when I was first trying to get better in all sorts of ways was "If it takes you years to get into the woods, you're not walking out in a day." Time takes time. It's not hard at all to lose 35 pounds fast. You can even do it eating Snickers. Here's the trick -- eat a Snickers a day, and only a Snickers a day, and you'll lose weight in a hurry. My guess, though, is that you will be miserable and won't be able to maintain the Snickers diet and will die sooner rather than later. Don't go for fast if you want it to last. (Wow - a rhyme!) A couple of pounds a week is ideal.
I agree with the idea of repetition. I call it my pattern. I have a Monday meal, a Tuesday meal, etc. I have a ten a.m. snack (apple), a 2 p.m. snack (orange), etc. I know the calories exactly. I don't want to have to think. Now if the same meal every Monday seems boring, figure out thirty meals that have the appropriate calories or 360 for a meal a day every year. By the time I eat I'm hungry enough to enjoy my Monday night meal every Monday. (Not starving - just appropriately hungry. I used to eat out of obligation, not hunger.) But, if that doesn't work for you, create as many meals as you must. Same with restaurants -- learn to look at a plate and know the calories.
Forget the 100 calorie snacks if they contain sugar or saturated fat. Those things create cravings. I don't have cravings any more, but one brownie creates them. I eat my brownie on Sunday, my day off, and it's good as long as I eat only one, but I have to struggle a bit even after all these years. If I ate 100 calorie brownie bits every day, I'd be craving all the time. Yuck. Eat an apple. You'll get to where you look forward to them. Really. I'm not kidding.
This is getting too long, but one more thing. If you want to maintain your ideal weight you need to change more than eating and exercising. If you're like me, you eat to change your feelings. Depressed? Eat ice cream- preferably from the caton. Anxious? a milk shake's good. If you don't find ways to change your feelings other than eating, you're doomed for ultimate weight failure, I think. (Don't do alcohol or drugs either. There are better ways.)
It sounds like you have a lot of "want to." My experience is "want to" doesn't mean much. What makes a difference is "willingness." To be successfuly you must have the willingness to be patient, work hard, take suggestions of people who have been successful over time. (Don't just take their word for it.)
Good Luck,
Ed