You look anorexic!

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peteykat

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I guess this is more of a venting than anything but any suggestions would be nice.

Once again, last night I got the "You look anorexic. Do you eat? You should eat.". My problem is I eat 5 meals a day, have my 2 protein shakes a day. I work out 4 - 5 times a week with my weights and only twice a week for cardio (anymore and I'd lose weight). So far, it's a slow journey upwards.

My problem is what do I say to a person who says that. And I know she's passing the "word" on to others. It's funny, she's a bit overweight, but I would never say "You're looking fat, stop eating.". So why is it okay for her and others to say it to me?

Blah, I guess after hearing it for the millionth time in my life I'm starting to break down :rolleyes:
 
couldn't agree more. Overweight people are very quick to call skinny people anorexic and often a whole lot of other negative words. before I started training this overweight girl told me I had no butt, well, I said she had to much butt. However, that was appearently very wrong because she could take offence and you don't tell overweight people that they are overweight..
 
If the person is a friend just slap them. It is a great way to get your point across.

If you don't want to do that, I would tell them they are overweight and should eat less.

That will make your point crystal clear.

I have also noticed that most overweight people are bitter, jaded, and have a negative attitude about a lot of things.

hhhhhmmmmmm. Could there be a connection.

(ps. I am not a skinny person saying this. The main reason I do not talk to most of my family is because they all advise me to stop working out. Everyone wants others to be more like themselves. I guess it keeps them from facing the truth.)
 
To some extent people are just concerned about yuor well being, which is nice, but it is generally none of their business. To some other extent everybody is secretly looking for some reason to believe they are superior to someone, which is unfortunate, but it is human nature to always be in a competitive mode... You just need to tell them politely, either it is none of thier business or tell them you probably eat more than they do (I know when I was in my teens and 20's I ate more than almost any other person I ever knew, by 2 or 3 times over and I was still pretty skinny).
 
goergen1 said:
If the person is a friend just slap them. It is a great way to get your point across.

If you don't want to do that, I would tell them they are overweight and should eat less.

That will make your point crystal clear.

I have also noticed that most overweight people are bitter, jaded, and have a negative attitude about a lot of things.

hhhhhmmmmmm. Could there be a connection.

(ps. I am not a skinny person saying this. The main reason I do not talk to most of my family is because they all advise me to stop working out. Everyone wants others to be more like themselves. I guess it keeps them from facing the truth.)
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after I started working out more and more of my friends have become like that. If they see me doing high weight low rep they will say "it just looks like he is strong because he is doing so few reps" if I set a PR they will say "cool.. I knew this guy once who could deadlift x ammount more than that"

When people notice improvements in my body that start saying things like "so you're going to become like Arnold now?" wtf, I'm not even close to what he was, and just because my muscles are growing does not mean his body is my goal.

And most of these things I have actually heard from overweight people, no offence, not everyone is like that, and alot of skinny people are bastards too.

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And this annoys me the most, if I do pullups, they will be like "it's just because of his low bodyweight" I actually weigh more than alot of my overweight friends and I do more pullups than them (I'm tall and lean, they are short and overweight) and for those who actually are heavier than me, well, I can usually add weight in a belt so it equals their BW and still do.
I'm gonna go hit something now..
 
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Whew. Not alone. It's funny.

You'd think if you are trying to be healthy and fit that people would think nothing but good for you're work and effort. It's either not enough or too much.

Guess it's just like anything out there though.
 
everyone's jealous and wants to drag you down to where they are. People aren't comfortable with people surpassing them, specially if you have been at their level for a long time with them.
 
I was watching, "Supersize Me" the other day, and it came up with a good question: "How come it's ok to heckle people about how smoking is bad, but yet it is not ok to tell someone it is bad being overweight?"

I find it interesting. As a society, we've grown to accept that people are overweight. Heck, you see it everywhere, so it's becoming more socially acceptable to look overweight, than it is being fit. As a matter of fact, coming to think about it, being fit is more of a chore than an actual "being." So in other words, the social norm is that being overweight is normal, and being anything else is just not normal.
 
Yes, there seems to be this growing trend fo self-acceptance and loving one's body the way it is. They make it out to seem like it's okay to be overweight, but they use euphamisms like "curvy" to describe overweight people. They claim that fit and thin people are anorexics who hate their bodies or who are influenced too heavily by the media. They say that it's okay to be overweight as long as you love your body.

In my opinion, loving your body means taking care of it. The media doesn't show tons of overweight people beacause they don't want to promote an unhealthy lifestyle. Being thin doesn't mean that you are anorexic to fit an unrealistic media image. Most of the people in advertisments have very realistic bodies.
 
dswithers said:
To some other extent everybody is secretly looking for some reason to believe they are superior to someone,
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I've noticed that people who are overweight are generally more critical of themselves and others. My step-daughter is slender and her father and step-mother have been telling her for over a year that she is "too skinny." They took her to a doctor and he told them that she was just the right weight for her height. Of course, I could have told them that just by looking at her. She's not too skinny at all, but certainly not overweight. Just enough body fat to stay warm and actually fairly fit for someone who doesn't exercise a great deal. It's amazing what people will do to make themselves feel better about themselves. As it were, her step-mother is overweight - go figure.
 
I've had the same issues.. i'm 5'5 and 130.. far from anorexic.. but i have friends that are over weight and tell me to stop going to the gym because i already look anorexic.. i tell them maybe they should try it..
 
Let's make a skinny people union or something. Where we can bash all the overweight people :p
Goergen can join too, offcource, we make an exception for him :D
 
goergen1 said:
ps. I am not a skinny person saying this. The main reason I do not talk to most of my family is because they all advise me to stop working out.
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Lol, don't worry buddy, we know you're not skinny, we've seen your videos ;)

I have exactly the same family problems though, my parents try to get my sister to find out why I'm working out, like it's a mental illness or something

Karky said:
if I set a PR they will say "cool.. I knew this guy once who could deadlift x ammount more than that"
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Yep, been there too, after going to the gym for a while and getting a bit stronger everyone thought it was great, but now I've got a lot stronger I get little digs every now and again as the insecure people I work with try and pick faults in me

I have no issue with skinny or fat physiques so long as the person is happy with how they look and don't judge others either

Edit: One other thing I just thought of - I get things like 'you know, most women don't like that much muscle'. And when I say I don't give a sh*t, I lift because I enjoy it they act like their brain is going to melt as they can't comprehend my answer
 
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Nae82 said:
I've had the same issues.. i'm 5'5 and 130.. far from anorexic.. but i have friends that are over weight and tell me to stop going to the gym because i already look anorexic.. i tell them maybe they should try it..
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These are your friends...?
 
Edit: One other thing I just thought of - I get things like 'you know, most women don't like that much muscle'. And when I say I don't give a sh*t, I lift because I enjoy it they act like their brain is going to melt as they can't comprehend my answer
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:yelrotflmao: It is amazing people think that way. :yelrotflmao:

I remember the very day I realized that girls don't care what you look like.

I was in Chicago, my training partner and I were in the Junior Worlds bench press contest.

Anthony Clark did an exhibition lift. He reverse grip bench pressed 735lbs. For 3 reps.

Anyone who has seen Anthony Clark knows that he is not exactly the specimen of the perfect physique. Then my training partner and I saw his girlfriend. A BANGIN' HOT fitness model.

And it hit me. If you are a strong person with a strong personality. Women love it. It matters not what you look like.

After that my confidence with the ladies went up and so did the "results"
 
I have gone up and down in weight a couple times in my adult life. In one of my slimmer phases I worked with several women who were morbidly obese. They referred to me as "skinny" at 6'1 195...about the same weight as my avatar. Granted, I had higher body fat, smaller arms so probably appeared thinner, but I would hardly call that skinny. I find that even though I knew their frame of reference was skewed it bothered me because I was really skinny growing up.

I think my boss was about 5'10 and if I had to guess she went about 375. She's one of those who claimed she couldn't lose weight no matter what she tried....she had a 5 gallon jar full of bite size candy bars in her office.LOL
 
Phate89 said:
These are your friends...?
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yep.. they dont say it in a mean way, just teasing, but it gets annoying.. especially when they want to go out to eat or go grab some fast food and i tell them they can do that and ill run home and grab something real quick.
 
thats what happens to me. I went to my doctora couple months ago and he asked me if i had eating problems, then when I said no, he asked if anyone in my family struggled with eatng problems. It gets on my nerves. Yes, I am really skinny, Im 20, 5'2 and only 96lbs but I have always been skinny. my whole life, I have never weighed more than 100 lbs... and that was when I was in HS during weight training. But thats why im in the gym now. Its the only way I have ever been able to gain weight. Im hoping to get a lil over 100 and so at least my arms and legs dont look so skinny, so they have some muscle on them. Im a very small person but Im not anorexic.I hate when people just think that cuz your skinny.
 
goergen1 said:
:yelrotflmao: It is amazing people think that way. :yelrotflmao:

I remember the very day I realized that girls don't care what you look like.

I was in Chicago, my training partner and I were in the Junior Worlds bench press contest.

Anthony Clark did an exhibition lift. He reverse grip bench pressed 735lbs. For 3 reps.

Anyone who has seen Anthony Clark knows that he is not exactly the specimen of the perfect physique. Then my training partner and I saw his girlfriend. A BANGIN' HOT fitness model.

And it hit me. If you are a strong person with a strong personality. Women love it. It matters not what you look like.

After that my confidence with the ladies went up and so did the "results"
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Hmm, well I'm a girl, and I do care what I guy looks like. A lot. Sure he can be cinfident and all of that, but if he doesn't fall under my definition of attractive, he won't cut it. Plain and simple. Call me superficial, but a lot of attraction is physical for me. I'll be the first to say that personality isn't everything. It will probably change once I get older, but with these teenage hormones raging, physical attraction is almost everything.
 
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Nae, you don't look anorexic. Has anyone ever told you that you bear a striking resemblance to Jamie Lee Curtis?
 
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