I could use a mentor/friend-please help me

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montana sky

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Hello Everyone,

I just joined, and I humbly ask for help as I start the journey back to fitness and good health. 2 years ago I did Provida, and lost 100 pounds. Several moves later and a ton of stress has found me almost in the same place I started. I was so proud of myself two years ago, and swore never to get that overweight again. I could use a friend/buddy/mentor to encourage me as I lose the weight and KEEP it off this time. I have seen a lot of people on this site in such great shape- if one of you would please hold my hand for awhile and give me a kick when I need it- I would be forever grateful.

Currently- I am at 55 ounces of water a day.
Trying to eat 4 times a day. Hard as I have gotten used to that dreaded one meal at night. Roughly following 1/2 cup carb 3x a day. 2 oz protein 4x a day. 1 cup fruit or vegetables 2 x a day.

Exercise- 1 cardio walk mile a day. Alternate with 20 minutes stretching and 10 minutes gazelle.

Heartbroken to be back here- but hoping that with support I can get back into the game.

Thank you for reading this.

Montana Sky
 
I would love to be that mentor friend or coach. I have help countless clients face to face and ova the internet reach their fitness goals. I advise that you start a journal on this board. Update it daily with you activities and we the board members will help you along your journey to becoming a more healthy and fit person. I sent you a private message about online training and and you are interested drop me an email. Good Luck.
Remember you have made the first step. Realizing that you needed to make a change now lets DO IT
 
montana sky said:
Hello Everyone,

I just joined, and I humbly ask for help as I start the journey back to fitness and good health. 2 years ago I did Provida, and lost 100 pounds. Several moves later and a ton of stress has found me almost in the same place I started. I was so proud of myself two years ago, and swore never to get that overweight again. I could use a friend/buddy/mentor to encourage me as I lose the weight and KEEP it off this time. I have seen a lot of people on this site in such great shape- if one of you would please hold my hand for awhile and give me a kick when I need it- I would be forever grateful.
Currently- I am at 55 ounces of water a day.
Trying to eat 4 times a day. Hard as I have gotten used to that dreaded one meal at night. Roughly following 1/2 cup carb 3x a day. 2 oz protein 4x a day. 1 cup fruit or vegetables 2 x a day.

Exercise- 1 cardio walk mile a day. Alternate with 20 minutes stretching and 10 minutes gazelle.

Heartbroken to be back here- but hoping that with support I can get back into the game.

Thank you for reading this.

Montana Sky
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I will hold your hand, and while I am holding this hand, I then give the other hand to the other great forum members we have on this site, and we then become a team that no one can break!​


WE are about Support and will bring your personal Fort and this will not be Short.

I can be that person. I want no frown on anyones face. PICK THE CHIN UP! You have come to the right place at the right time.

Though this log isnt highly regarded by some, I disagree with their side, and can provide an arguement that they cant overcome.

Go through the ChillOut Log, and see if there is something in there, that is suited and/or taylored to you in relation to the type of motivation that moves or benefits you. The log sort of swings to different areas, because what motivates one doesnt another. Just browse through it and see what happens. Provide me some feed back, and I can can taylor something special for you.

With this in mind young Lady. I welcome you to this site, Again.


You have found your GATE OF OPPORTUNITY with this forum:

We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Be BRAVE and we will be BRAVE with you:

Fortune favors the brave.
Publius Terence

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You may have fallen, girl, BUT YOU GOT BACK UP, and this is essential to success:

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius

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You do have the control in you, girl. Reach inward and grasp it!

Within each of us lies the power of our consent to health and sickness, to riches and poverty, to freedom and to slavery. It is we who control these, and not another.
Richard Bach (Illusions)

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You have the light and together we will make it SHINE BRIGHT!

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross

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You have the Hands of the forum in each Hand and we will Command to make you Stand to be Grand as Progammed and Planned. Understand? And, we will assist you into the promised Land!


ROCK ON!!!!!!!!!


Stand and Deliver to yourself!


Chillen
 
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montana sky said:
Hello Everyone,

I just joined, and I humbly ask for help as I start the journey back to fitness and good health. 2 years ago I did Provida, and lost 100 pounds.
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What is your age, sex and height ?

How long did it take you to lose 100 lbs. on Provida ?

Why did Provida work for you in losing weight in your view - i.e. what did you like about Provida ?

How long did it take to gain the 100 lbs back ? How did you gain it back - i.e overeating , lack of exercise ......both ?

montana sky said:
Several moves later and a ton of stress has found me almost in the same place I started. I was so proud of myself two years ago, and swore never to get that overweight again. I could use a friend/buddy/mentor to encourage me as I lose the weight and KEEP it off this time.
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Did you have a friend/buddy/mentor when you lost your 100 lbs. ?
 
RockHard said:
Friends are not made through demand. Friends are made through experiences.

PS. I didn't read a single word in your thread. I do apologize if this is off-topic.
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With respect this is a worthless comment. Why dont you just delete it, or edit it and start over by reading her post.

I dont know her, but I AM her friend.
 
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How do we know the topic creator is a girl?

Anyway, I don't know how much of a help I can be, and I don't know how many people I helped out on the forum, but I think I can give some helpful tips.

I must say congratulations on losing the weight earlier. However, it seems you did a rebound when you gained it all back. I believe the reason for this is because of Provida. I'm not sure what it is, but it sounds like either a weight watchers meal plan, or some type of drug. Either way, I don't think it's wise to use these type of things as it can cause you to become dependant on it (i.e. you will think in order to lose weight, this is the only solution).

As for what to do, here's what I think you should do so that we can help you out as best as possible:

1) Post your current diet (meals, and any type of breakdown you can do). I suggest writing your meals for 1 week. Don't worry, no one is perfect, and it's ok if you post things that are "bad." I think one of the things you will find hard is to control yourself from eating. It's hard, that's why a lot of people are overweight... to many good things to eat out there. But, with control and moderation in mind, you can enjoy foods you like, as well as become accustom to healthy food.

2) Post your exercise in more detail. I think you posted some exercise, and I think I can make some comments on them later.

3) Keep a journal. I keep a diet journal right here besides me. I stopped writing in it for a few weeks, but now I started writing in it again since I believe I've been going a little crazy. I do believe that if you can actually write your food and its breakdown in calories, and whatever else you want to keep track of, you can improve your chances of keeping weight off. You don't have to post it online (I don't), but there are some helpful sites out there that can help you out. Please ask if you want those sites.

4) Listen to the people around this forum. I especially found a lot of people helpful on the forum. I could name a few, but I think you'll find out yourself.
 
TO build on Dallen's great post:

Try this link for some motivation (May or may be something in there for you):

http://training.fitness.com/wellness/chillout-log-chillen-21-25737.html

And try this link:

http://training.fitness.com/weight-loss/weight-loss-intricate-27164.html

And, I copied and pasted a post I made in another thread that may assist you:

Fat loss will occur, but it will happen all over the body, and is like a pool so-to-speak: The larger deeper end seems to drain slower than the smaller deeper end. This is just how it is. Once cannot spot reduce.
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Calculate your BMR:

The Harris Benedict equation determines calorie needs for men or woman as follows: (this just one version of other types one can use, but this will give you an idea)

• It calculates your Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) calorie requirements, based on your height, weight, age and gender.

• It increases your BMR calorie needs by taking into account the number of calories you burn through activities such as exercise.

This gives you your total calorie requirement or approximated Maintenance Line (I call it the MT Line).

Step One : Calculate your BMR with the following formula:

•Women: BMR = 655 + (4.35 x weight in pounds) + (4.7 x height in inches) - (4.7 x age in years)
•Men: BMR = 66 + (6.23 x weight in pounds) + (12.7 x height in inches) - (6.8 x age in years)

Step Two : In order to incorporate activity into your daily caloric needs, do the following calculation:

•If you are sedentary : BMR x 1.2
•If you are lightly active: BMR x 1.375
•If you are moderately active (You exercise most days a week.): BMR x 1.55
•If you are very active (You exercise daily.): BMR x 1.725
•If you are extra active (You do hard labor or are in athletic training.): BMR x 1.9

Create a Calorie Deficit:

In order to lose weight, you must create a calorie deficit. It is easier and healthier to cut back your calorie intake a little bit at a time.

Every 3,500 calories is equivalent to approximated 1 pound.

If you cut back 500 calories a day, you will lose approximated 1 pound per week. (not necessarily all fat)

If you exercise to burn off 500 calories a day you will also lose approximately 1 pound per week.

The -500c is just an example, one could make it: -200,-300, or -400.

The calorie deficit margin is just an example:

Apply this knowledge by backing off the approximated MT Line (approximated Maintenance line), say for example, a -500c per day, for about 1 week. Before the week begins, weigh yourself in the AM when you FIRST get up (do not eat yet) (remember your clothing, preferably with just underwear and t-shirt or like clothes). Note the time, and the approximated wgt.
Each day spread your caloric content out throughout the day (keep the body fed, with calories in the 300 to 500c approximated calories each meal), or a like division which mirrors your end caloric deficit limit (meaning MT-500c).

This way you have your entire day and body encircled with nutrition (I assume you already know to eat clean), which if your eating right, will give an approximated good energy (not optimal because your in deficit) to fuel your training and exercising schedule.

At the end of the week, on the same day, the same time, with the same like clothes, weigh yourself again. Note whether you lost or gained tissue (or weight I mean). To further assist you, I want to tell you that for every approximated caloric deficit of (-3500c), one could lose 1lb of fat tissue. (though some may not all be fat tissue, this information is for another question, and isn't presently suited here).

Now, in this example you were calculating a -500c per day deficit. There needs to be -3500c to lose approximated 1lbs of fat. Now lets do some basic math. -500cX7=-3500c. With all things considered equal, and you were meticulous and faithful on the diet, you should have been CLOSE to losing at least one pound of tissue in the week.

If this didn't happen, this means you need to make finer adjustments, and the MT line is not accurate, and you need to adjust this on your own.

Based upon the FEEDBACK your body is giving you, ask yourself how faithful you were on the diet, AND how faithful in training (whether you kept the training schedule (if you didn't, this would effect the caloric equation, no?!), AND how accurate you figured in your activities caloric wise.........but, you have the base information to begin making adjustments.
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Do some personal calculations with your Wgt, height, age, gender, and activities, and see what you come up with in the caloric sense.

Best regards,



Chillen
 
Friends can be made anywhere, anytime. Part of being human is the inclination to draw together for the benefit one who needs it.

With the exception of rockhard, you'll find friends wherever you turn here.
 
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Wrangell said:
What is your age, sex and height ?

How long did it take you to lose 100 lbs. on Provida ?

Why did Provida work for you in losing weight in your view - i.e. what did you like about Provida ?

How long did it take to gain the 100 lbs back ? How did you gain it back - i.e overeating , lack of exercise ......both ?



Did you have a friend/buddy/mentor when you lost your 100 lbs. ?
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Hello Wrangell,

Thank you for your message. I am 38, Female, and 5'7. It took me 10 months to lose the weight. Provida worked the first time because I saw results within the first two weeks- so I stayed motivated. It was the first time I actively tried a system to lose weight. Provida was a guide on what to eat and the amounts to be eaten- and contained a series of stretching exercises. It stressed the importance of eating 5x a day. It took two years for the weight to fully come back. Lack of exercise was the main reason, followed by the fact that I went back to one meal in the evening. It wasn't overeating- just eating food that was not good for me. I know I can get to that 100 pound loss point again with determination, but somethings have to be done differently this time so that I can carry the right choices past the "loss". When I lost the weight- it wasn't the end of the journey. The next step needed to be toning and an increased exercise regimen to look better. I didn't have a buddy, and I think that is where I went wrong because noone was there to turn to when I stopped the program.

Valerie
 
Dallen said:
How do we know the topic creator is a girl?

Anyway, I don't know how much of a help I can be, and I don't know how many people I helped out on the forum, but I think I can give some helpful tips.

I must say congratulations on losing the weight earlier. However, it seems you did a rebound when you gained it all back. I believe the reason for this is because of Provida. I'm not sure what it is, but it sounds like either a weight watchers meal plan, or some type of drug. Either way, I don't think it's wise to use these type of things as it can cause you to become dependant on it (i.e. you will think in order to lose weight, this is the only solution).

As for what to do, here's what I think you should do so that we can help you out as best as possible:

1) Post your current diet (meals, and any type of breakdown you can do). I suggest writing your meals for 1 week. Don't worry, no one is perfect, and it's ok if you post things that are "bad." I think one of the things you will find hard is to control yourself from eating. It's hard, that's why a lot of people are overweight... to many good things to eat out there. But, with control and moderation in mind, you can enjoy foods you like, as well as become accustom to healthy food.

2) Post your exercise in more detail. I think you posted some exercise, and I think I can make some comments on them later.

3) Keep a journal. I keep a diet journal right here besides me. I stopped writing in it for a few weeks, but now I started writing in it again since I believe I've been going a little crazy. I do believe that if you can actually write your food and its breakdown in calories, and whatever else you want to keep track of, you can improve your chances of keeping weight off. You don't have to post it online (I don't), but there are some helpful sites out there that can help you out. Please ask if you want those sites.

4) Listen to the people around this forum. I especially found a lot of people helpful on the forum. I could name a few, but I think you'll find out yourself.
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Hello Dallen,

Thank you for answering my message. I am a girl. :) You are right about Provida. It wasn't a drug, but it was a type of eating plan. When I stopped eating 5x a day- that is when the weight started to come back as I slowed my metabolism again. I honestly don't know how to write the food down in calories as I only eat vegetables, fruit, but I could do it with the turkey. The eating plan goes by quantity and not calories. My heartfelt thank you to everyone that has answered my post. I am so new that I can't send a message to you- but your kindness is appreciated.
Valerie
 
Chillen said:
TO build on Dallen's great post:

Try this link for some motivation (May or may be something in there for you):

http://training.fitness.com/wellness/chillout-log-chillen-21-25737.html

And try this link:

http://training.fitness.com/weight-loss/weight-loss-intricate-27164.html

And, I copied and pasted a post I made in another thread that may assist you:

Fat loss will occur, but it will happen all over the body, and is like a pool so-to-speak: The larger deeper end seems to drain slower than the smaller deeper end. This is just how it is. Once cannot spot reduce.
===================================================================================================
Calculate your BMR:

The Harris Benedict equation determines calorie needs for men or woman as follows: (this just one version of other types one can use, but this will give you an idea)

• It calculates your Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) calorie requirements, based on your height, weight, age and gender.

• It increases your BMR calorie needs by taking into account the number of calories you burn through activities such as exercise.

This gives you your total calorie requirement or approximated Maintenance Line (I call it the MT Line).

Step One : Calculate your BMR with the following formula:

•Women: BMR = 655 + (4.35 x weight in pounds) + (4.7 x height in inches) - (4.7 x age in years)
•Men: BMR = 66 + (6.23 x weight in pounds) + (12.7 x height in inches) - (6.8 x age in years)

Step Two : In order to incorporate activity into your daily caloric needs, do the following calculation:

•If you are sedentary : BMR x 1.2
•If you are lightly active: BMR x 1.375
•If you are moderately active (You exercise most days a week.): BMR x 1.55
•If you are very active (You exercise daily.): BMR x 1.725
•If you are extra active (You do hard labor or are in athletic training.): BMR x 1.9

Create a Calorie Deficit:

In order to lose weight, you must create a calorie deficit. It is easier and healthier to cut back your calorie intake a little bit at a time.

Every 3,500 calories is equivalent to approximated 1 pound.

If you cut back 500 calories a day, you will lose approximated 1 pound per week. (not necessarily all fat)

If you exercise to burn off 500 calories a day you will also lose approximately 1 pound per week.

The -500c is just an example, one could make it: -200,-300, or -400.

The calorie deficit margin is just an example:

Apply this knowledge by backing off the approximated MT Line (approximated Maintenance line), say for example, a -500c per day, for about 1 week. Before the week begins, weigh yourself in the AM when you FIRST get up (do not eat yet) (remember your clothing, preferably with just underwear and t-shirt or like clothes). Note the time, and the approximated wgt.
Each day spread your caloric content out throughout the day (keep the body fed, with calories in the 300 to 500c approximated calories each meal), or a like division which mirrors your end caloric deficit limit (meaning MT-500c).

This way you have your entire day and body encircled with nutrition (I assume you already know to eat clean), which if your eating right, will give an approximated good energy (not optimal because your in deficit) to fuel your training and exercising schedule.

At the end of the week, on the same day, the same time, with the same like clothes, weigh yourself again. Note whether you lost or gained tissue (or weight I mean). To further assist you, I want to tell you that for every approximated caloric deficit of (-3500c), one could lose 1lb of fat tissue. (though some may not all be fat tissue, this information is for another question, and isn't presently suited here).

Now, in this example you were calculating a -500c per day deficit. There needs to be -3500c to lose approximated 1lbs of fat. Now lets do some basic math. -500cX7=-3500c. With all things considered equal, and you were meticulous and faithful on the diet, you should have been CLOSE to losing at least one pound of tissue in the week.

If this didn't happen, this means you need to make finer adjustments, and the MT line is not accurate, and you need to adjust this on your own.

Based upon the FEEDBACK your body is giving you, ask yourself how faithful you were on the diet, AND how faithful in training (whether you kept the training schedule (if you didn't, this would effect the caloric equation, no?!), AND how accurate you figured in your activities caloric wise.........but, you have the base information to begin making adjustments.
==================================================================================================

Do some personal calculations with your Wgt, height, age, gender, and activities, and see what you come up with in the caloric sense.

Best regards,



Chillen
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Dear Chillen,

You have given me so much wonderful information- I will have to sit down with this tomorrow and absorb it. I enjoy your writing- lyrical. :) If I could have sent you a message it would have included a big hug! All of you are fantastic. Thank you ever so much.

Valerie
 
Sky

You are very welcome.

ROCK THE HECK ON!

How are you this evening.

I just got back from bowling, and celebrating my sons birthday (his is on the 28th, and mine was on the 25th) at his house. Been a very busy, but fun evening.

The last couple of days, I havent been able to post to the chillout log due amount of work hours, and other responsibilities, and since I dont have a person to cover for me, it had to wait, and I dont like this at all, and feel I am letting someone down.

By all means review the post I gave you, and provide some feedback, and between me and the others, we can see what we can do for you!

GO GIRL! you have all you need. ITS YOU!

Best regards,


Chillen
 
Valerie,

Some of the things they provided in your weight loss plan, 5 meals / day, exercising, are life changes. We are here to help you with them as you lose that weight again and as you keep it off afterwards.

Richard
 
Chillen said:
Sky

You are very welcome.

ROCK THE HECK ON!

How are you this evening.

I just got back from bowling, and celebrating my sons birthday (his is on the 28th, and mine was on the 25th) at his house. Been a very busy, but fun evening.

The last couple of days, I havent been able to post to the chillout log due amount of work hours, and other responsibilities, and since I dont have a person to cover for me, it had to wait, and I dont like this at all, and feel I am letting someone down.

By all means review the post I gave you, and provide some feedback, and between me and the others, we can see what we can do for you!

GO GIRL! you have all you need. ITS YOU!

Best regards,


Chillen
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Hello Chillen,

I still cannot send a message- but I hope you are able to read this. If I calculated correctly -my BMR is 2300. So- If I keep the daily calories at 1300-that would mean a weekly weight loss of 2 pounds, correct? I roughly estimate my current daily calorie count at 1000. I am not starving myself by any means- just eating fruit, vegetables, and 8 oz of Turkey. I actually felt hungry over the past two days, so I know my metabolism is waking up. I read your audacity of want article, and it is all so very true. I lost 8 pounds this past week, and should be feeling really motivated. Yet when I feel stressed- that comfort food craving kicks in. I have to really want this, and I do. I was a creative writing major a long time ago, and your style of writing is easier for me to understand than common diction. Thanks.

Valerie
 
g8r80 said:
Valerie,

Some of the things they provided in your weight loss plan, 5 meals / day, exercising, are life changes. We are here to help you with them as you lose that weight again and as you keep it off afterwards.

Richard
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Richard,

Thank you for being here for me. I know the exercise is for life- I should never have stopped. Stressed is no excuse for not maintaining healthy eating as well. So many outside factors in my life pulling from so many different directions, but I have to realize that I am the center, and must always take care of myself first. Why that was so hard for me to understand until now- I am not certain. 8 pounds lost this first week- and according to the information from Chillen (I hope I calculated correctly) I should expect it to fall down to 2 pounds per week until I make more changes in my eating/exercising plan.

Thank you so much. Valerie
 
montana sky said:
Hello Chillen,

I still cannot send a message- but I hope you are able to read this. If I calculated correctly -my BMR is 2300. So- If I keep the daily calories at 1300-that would mean a weekly weight loss of 2 pounds, correct? I roughly estimate my current daily calorie count at 1000. I am not starving myself by any means- just eating fruit, vegetables, and 8 oz of Turkey. I actually felt hungry over the past two days, so I know my metabolism is waking up. I read your audacity of want article, and it is all so very true. I lost 8 pounds this past week, and should be feeling really motivated. Yet when I feel stressed- that comfort food craving kicks in. I have to really want this, and I do. I was a creative writing major a long time ago, and your style of writing is easier for me to understand than common diction. Thanks.

Valerie
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What did you use when you calculated your BMR? (I assume you are using Benedict) Did you factor in your approximated Activities as well in this figure (what activity mulitiplyer did you use)? When calculating one adds in activities and then backs off---a healthy margin, per day. Yes, -500 per day for 7 days is -3500c, and -1,000c per day equals -7000c for 7 days. I do not reccommend a -1000c deficit per day. Rather I recommend a (-300 to -500) per day or closethereto. Fat loss needs to be steady and not too fast. Im not quite ready to commit to the 1300c figure without knowing the circumference of your activities. Is walking what you are doing at the present time? I will take a look at it in the late morning after you plug in the activites you are doing. Are you planning to do any appropriate weight training or other like exercising. Do you have access to weights or a gym?

What schedule of training do you have per day and for the week?
 
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Sky.........I see you peaking at this thread.......whats up girl.......LOL

Pop in and checking on you...............:)
 
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