I am not sure that this belongs here, but I am going to post it anyway. I am 26 years old I have been a member of this forum for sometime now. I am impressed with the help that I have gotten from so many people whom I have never met in person nor ever will. This thread is not for those people. This thread is for those individuals who have posted sarcastic comments on my threads and whom I have no respect for. I am not going to name names with this, but a few of the senior members who have given me advice on another thread in the weight training section know who I am talking about. I am going to fill you in on why I am here and why I decided to change my lifestyle. For fifteen years now I have been over weight and depressed. I used food as an escape from lifes problems. Not exactly a wise decision on my part. I have been so depressed that I even contemplated suicide. I have dealt with many people in my life whom thought it in their best interest to ridicule me. I have dealt with those people in the past by eating. My depression was not only caused by over eating, but also because I am gay. I had no way of accepting myself this wasn't something that I chose. I had no way of dealing with it and I have known for some fifteen years now that I am gay. It was not more than a month ago that I came out to my parents. I have been tortured and ridiculed by so many people in my life. Those people have no idea what it is like to walk in my shoes. They have no idea the torment that they put me and others like me through. So to this individual I say now grow up and start acting like a human. If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all. You have no idea what it is like to watch your overweight grandmother slowly die of heart disease you have know idea what kind of ridicule and torement and anguish that people like me go through. So to you I say just keep your damn mouth shut. To those of you that have given me advice thanks I appreciate it. If the moderators choose to delete this thread that is fine. I just thought it might come in handy for some of us who have made accomplishments with our weight loss. I have lost some 62 pounds since the first of this year. I have lost some 10 inches off my abdominal area. I have gone from a 40 waist on my jeans to a 34. I am damn proud of those accomplishments and I am proud of the fact that I have changed my lifestyle. I have become a new person and the depression is gone and I am in control of my life and the decisions that I have made in the last few months have been the most rewarding in my life. Here is another quick story for you. I was out running the other day. I met a young lady and her trainer and asked if I could join them for a run. This young lady was overweight. We talked while we walked and I told her my story about the weight loss that I had experienced. She had just started, but I could see the sparkle in her eye when I told her that she could do anything she put her mind to. I even gave her my phone number and told her to call me for support if she needed someone to talk to. I believe she can reach her goals and I will be there to support her. Thats what being human is all about. So when some of you are posting comments think a little about who might be on the receiving end of those comments.
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Steve,
Sorry you have dealt with so much crap. If there is anything I have learned, it is that this world can be a cruel place. Unfortunately, most do not look out for the best interest of others. Our society has mutated into a selfish monster. Most would rather receive than give, and they live and die by that. If that was not bad enough, we also seem to pick ourselves up by putting others down.
The majority of people have been on the receiving end, so you are not alone. I wish you continued success in your goals!
I think a major moral of your story is this, look at what changing your lifestyles into healthy habits can do. Not only does it improve health and physical appearance. More importantly, it cleanses the mind!
Keep it up.
Sorry you have dealt with so much crap. If there is anything I have learned, it is that this world can be a cruel place. Unfortunately, most do not look out for the best interest of others. Our society has mutated into a selfish monster. Most would rather receive than give, and they live and die by that. If that was not bad enough, we also seem to pick ourselves up by putting others down.
The majority of people have been on the receiving end, so you are not alone. I wish you continued success in your goals!
I think a major moral of your story is this, look at what changing your lifestyles into healthy habits can do. Not only does it improve health and physical appearance. More importantly, it cleanses the mind!
Keep it up.
Steve, the internet can be as cruel as kindergarden and it helps to except the fact that many people just never grow up and they find it comfortable to hide behind a PC and say whatever they want, be as immature as they want, and have as little respect as they want. It just goes with the territory unfortuneatly. But, all in all, I think this is a pretty good forum with a greater majority sympathetic and really here to cheer you on and help motivate you to be healthy, no matter what your lifestyle is.
Keep up the good work.
Keep up the good work.
Hi Steve!
I found your thread to be incredibly personal and so much more than just words on a screen from 'someone across the planet' ... you really put your mind into those words and were really affected by those things you spoke of. I APPLAUD you for writing this !! Because I LOVE The story you told about the lady you inspired with your optimism !! If its one thing this world needs more of..IT IS POSITIVE PEOPLE LIKE YOU!!!
You did it and you are so proud and that is just incredible. I loved reading this small and very important entry you made about your life and how you overcame your food addiction !! I am so tired of fake people with one track minds, it takes people like you who have been through some real things in life to become the individual that you are. I totally relate to you.
I wish you the BEST !! And you are such an inspiration , your post just radiates strength of mind and all those people who say mindless crap, they just have no idea what the world looks like anyway, because they have lived an entire life with their own head up their @$$ !!
Thank you Steve!
Take care and keep up the good work !
Love,
Jaymie B.
I found your thread to be incredibly personal and so much more than just words on a screen from 'someone across the planet' ... you really put your mind into those words and were really affected by those things you spoke of. I APPLAUD you for writing this !! Because I LOVE The story you told about the lady you inspired with your optimism !! If its one thing this world needs more of..IT IS POSITIVE PEOPLE LIKE YOU!!!
You did it and you are so proud and that is just incredible. I loved reading this small and very important entry you made about your life and how you overcame your food addiction !! I am so tired of fake people with one track minds, it takes people like you who have been through some real things in life to become the individual that you are. I totally relate to you.
I wish you the BEST !! And you are such an inspiration , your post just radiates strength of mind and all those people who say mindless crap, they just have no idea what the world looks like anyway, because they have lived an entire life with their own head up their @$$ !!
Thank you Steve!
Take care and keep up the good work !
Love,
Jaymie B.
Steve,
F... those people! I have just recently figured out that the kinds of people who ridicule others do so because of lack of self-esteem on their own part.
I am going to go back and read the posts you refer to, but remember: this is a public forum, and you will get the childish, immature kids on here who just come here to get some free advice.
You need to laugh at those people and realize that they are sad! Don't let them or anyone else get to you.
I don't know how to quote posts in these forums, but the gains you have made are incredible! Take those accomplishments to heart, not some meaningless comments.
Not only have you made physical changes, but some very significant psychological changes as well, and those can be the hardest changes to make.
Congratulations on the changes! Don't even waste your time or breath with those others! When I see those kinds of people posting on forums, I just skip past their posts!
My only suggestion: KEEP IT GOING, Brother!
F... those people! I have just recently figured out that the kinds of people who ridicule others do so because of lack of self-esteem on their own part.
I am going to go back and read the posts you refer to, but remember: this is a public forum, and you will get the childish, immature kids on here who just come here to get some free advice.
You need to laugh at those people and realize that they are sad! Don't let them or anyone else get to you.
I don't know how to quote posts in these forums, but the gains you have made are incredible! Take those accomplishments to heart, not some meaningless comments.
Not only have you made physical changes, but some very significant psychological changes as well, and those can be the hardest changes to make.
Congratulations on the changes! Don't even waste your time or breath with those others! When I see those kinds of people posting on forums, I just skip past their posts!
My only suggestion: KEEP IT GOING, Brother!
Hey, keep it up. Don't even think about those comments idiots make to you. Completely ignore them. Your drive has given you incredible results. Keep it up.
Wow! those are amazing results. Well done, you.
Not only you are stronger and fitter physically but also only a strong mind can challenge the body and remain focused so as to achieve such amazing results.
And that fact you are helping this lady shows how pure and big your heart is.
You should be really proud of youself!
And here is big pat on your back from me.
Not only you are stronger and fitter physically but also only a strong mind can challenge the body and remain focused so as to achieve such amazing results.
And that fact you are helping this lady shows how pure and big your heart is.
You should be really proud of youself!
And here is big pat on your back from me.
I just wanted to say thank-you to those who gave words of encouragement to me. I hope that the people who read this take it to heart. We are humans and as humans we should not judge someone by looks or sexuality. We should judge them by character. I feel the vast majority of the people on this forum have character and high moral standards to you I say thanks. To those who don't think a little about what it would be like to be in my shoes or someone else's before you act. Thanks again!!!
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I agree with my fellow posters! great job and keep moving on! You are doing great!!!
Dealing with your sexuality must have been difficult in Kansas, I am from teh liberal northeast and had a few Gay friends, they are no different then my heterosexual friends, friends are friends. I'm married with three kids, my wife and I teach our children to be kind and respectful to everyone and that they are great kids, because kids can be cruel.
My father died when I was 1, my oldest brother was shot and killed by his "best" friend in a bar fight, my other brother fought and lost a battle to brain cancer for 5 years, my childhood friend died of a hear attack at the age of 22, another close friend Died trying to catch a train in Newark, NJ.
You see life is short, you never know what is going to be thrown your way. I believe strongly in Karma, you do good deeds and you be good to others, good things will come your way, you do bad, the same follows.
Life is just to short to be a D!ck, I try to help out as many people as I can and as often as I can, my neighbors know that and we are all friends.
I was in the military, and the one saying that sticks through my mind, and I use it to this day is...."Suck it up and move on!" I can not worry about the past or what people think of me, I just keep trenching forward, and that is what I say to you steve.
Never be ashamed of yourself or whom you are, live in your American skin, you are doing great and I am glad you have done well for yourself. If you are ever in Atlanta, I will be happy to share a beer with you, ok a lite beer. LOL
Anyway, great Job, keep moving forward and don't let this crappy world bring you down! Rise above and overcome! Have the faith in yourself, that you are Steve and be the best person you can be. A little generosity and positive attitude towards others goes a long way!!
good luck my friend. Keep up the good work
I agree with my fellow posters! great job and keep moving on! You are doing great!!!
Dealing with your sexuality must have been difficult in Kansas, I am from teh liberal northeast and had a few Gay friends, they are no different then my heterosexual friends, friends are friends. I'm married with three kids, my wife and I teach our children to be kind and respectful to everyone and that they are great kids, because kids can be cruel.
My father died when I was 1, my oldest brother was shot and killed by his "best" friend in a bar fight, my other brother fought and lost a battle to brain cancer for 5 years, my childhood friend died of a hear attack at the age of 22, another close friend Died trying to catch a train in Newark, NJ.
You see life is short, you never know what is going to be thrown your way. I believe strongly in Karma, you do good deeds and you be good to others, good things will come your way, you do bad, the same follows.
Life is just to short to be a D!ck, I try to help out as many people as I can and as often as I can, my neighbors know that and we are all friends.
I was in the military, and the one saying that sticks through my mind, and I use it to this day is...."Suck it up and move on!" I can not worry about the past or what people think of me, I just keep trenching forward, and that is what I say to you steve.
Never be ashamed of yourself or whom you are, live in your American skin, you are doing great and I am glad you have done well for yourself. If you are ever in Atlanta, I will be happy to share a beer with you, ok a lite beer. LOL
Anyway, great Job, keep moving forward and don't let this crappy world bring you down! Rise above and overcome! Have the faith in yourself, that you are Steve and be the best person you can be. A little generosity and positive attitude towards others goes a long way!!
good luck my friend. Keep up the good work