Great that you found bottleneck and slashed it off!So I realized this was taking me so long to wander around finding something that fits perfectly in each box that it's not worth the time. Instead I found a bunch of those air filled plastic bags and I am stuffing them in the gaps of the mostly filled boxes and packing them up and moving on. This should keep me from going nuts now that I can pack at a normal rate again.
People who "are bad at" basic domestic stuff either lack practice (which may not be their fault) or see it as too far below them to engage their brains for.I am always shocked at how bad he is at domestic things. But he is very talented in many other ways, so, oh well!
Great solution!I found a bunch of those air filled plastic bags and I am stuffing them in the gaps of the mostly filled boxes and packing them up and moving on.
I need to teach him how to shop one of these days. I am always shocked at how bad he is at domestic things
Yes I often think of how bad I am at with certain things--i've been especially contemplating my lack of ability with basic building skills lately. I would like to build a simple closet, but just feel completely lost! Lack of training, lack of practice!People who "are bad at" basic domestic stuff either lack practice
Hi LaMa! J definitely has not gotten practice with the domestic stuff. He used to pay his younger brothers to do his chores, so he has managed to avoid that sort of thing even as a kid. I really want to get him proficient at cooking more than eggs and also get him to know how to grocery shop. He does dishes now and they come out clean. Took me about a year to work with him on that and on putting the dishes away in the right spot. It like he's a small child in this way. Very strange, but not the worst fault on the planet, for sure!People who "are bad at" basic domestic stuff either lack practice (which may not be their fault) or see it as too far below them to engage their brains for.
My grandfather was so good with tools, he built his own house, and I always wanted to learn from him, but he had no patience. We put together Ikea furniture and K is starting to get good at assembling fences from bamboo poles and such. I'd love to learn real carpentry though!Yes I often think of how bad I am at with certain things--i've been especially contemplating my lack of ability with basic building skills lately. I would like to build a simple closet, but just feel completely lost! Lack of training, lack of practice!
That sounds so good! You are doing incredibly well, M xoI am feeling organized and productive now, and when you walk in the rooms, they seem a lot more open and clean, which makes me happy.
I especially loved the North of Vietnam. We went to lots of villages outside Hanoi, but I also loved Hanoi. Sapa was wonderful. I have hundreds of photos printed & in albums. I must get them out & have another look. We did not hear raised voices anywhere in Vietnam & there were little shrines everywhere & lots of lovely temples.Wow, I'd love to visit Vietnam some day! What parts did you like especially?
Wow, that's wonderful you got to write about Buddhism for your theses! I have always wanted to join a meditation group, but I got so socially anxious, I haven't brought myself to do it yet. My teacher doesn't have a permanent place he teaches (probably because he doesn't like the whole sangha in-person thing either) so I used to go to his one day talks when he comes to town, and I take his online courses. So I avoid all that competitive stuff. I know what you mean about that. My neighbors founded a Buddhist elementary school, and they are very bossy and used to being deferred to. I have seen really happy sanghas though where the monks are really nice and have good senses of humor. I guess it depends on the lead teacher's way with people.Popping in to comment - Buddhism has had a profound impact on me, to the point where I wrote both my Bachelor's and Master's theses about themes that had to do with it. I also used to go to sanghas and partake in meditation retreats, but group meditation really isn't the right fit for me personally because I always got the sense that in some way a lot of people were "competing" against each other in the sanghas I visited. Similarly to how some church people get all smug about their own holiness. And that made me doubt myself a lot. Probably tells more about me and my anxieties than the other folks, but hey. The core ideas still resonate with me and they help me a lot when I feel like I'm not enough and that I'm not in control... Because no one really is.
Looking forward to hearing what you learn!I looked up "CBT and overeating" and also "emotional eating" today and found great stuff to research. I can't wait until after the move to really get into this stuff.
I'm sure the solution will be specific to every single one of us but I do believe the underlying framework will be similar.I figure if we all put our heads together on this forum we can find a bunch of solutions that should work for us long term!
That's too bad you couldn't learn from him. My dad was a carpenter, so he was forever building and we always had a workshop. I did try to learn stuff from him, but just couldn't get the knack of it. Course growing up with someone like that I could always have him do all my projects for me--not anymore though!My grandfather was so good with tools, he built his own house, and I always wanted to learn from him, but he had no patience.
Sorry to chime in once again, but this is one of my autistic SPINs (SPecial INterests); this is spot on. Buddhism, if compared to f.e. Christianity, has similarities and differences; in large parts of Asia it's politically and historically speaking very similar to Christianity in the West, with a long history of highly organized monastery and temple systems, a monopoly on higher education in centuries when the majority of population was illiterate, and political ties to powerful families who tended to send children who weren't fit to be successors to monasteries to create a spiritual career for themselves.Buddhism sure does seem to have a wide appeal these days. i think a big part is that you don't have to necessarily take on all the beliefs/practices to get some benefit. That's good that your teacher teaches in clear and simple ways--I like those sort of teachers as well.